Dueling Bosses

Hi Debra,

I have recently taken on a dual role within my company; reporting to two different bosses on two different jobs. While everyone was admittedly nervous about this split, it had been working. Until about two weeks ago. The two people I report to are having issues and I feel stuck in the middle; like a kid with divorcing parents.

My job used to be great - I've never missed a deadline in either role, my attitude and performance have improved slightly. I think it's because for the first time in my two years with the company, I had a sense of ownership. Because these two can't stop arguing though, I'm losing the assignments I had been given. While I know I can't take this personally, it's very difficult to not. How can I continue to perform in the dual role if the people I report to can't get along? Am I the better person if I decide that this is no longer working and ask that the dual reporting be reevaluated by another manager?

The last two weeks have caused so much commotion that I have contemplated whether or not I want to return here after my maternity leave in April - yes, the added stress of a first time pregnancy is not much a help.

Thanks Debra! Some outside, professional input would be so appreciated!

Pilar

Dear Pilar:

From what you said, this is a 50/50 split, in which both managers evaluate your performance, give you assignments, and manage your daily activities. In this case, it would be appropriate to speak to both of them at the same time.  You may want to email both managers with a message similar to this:

"Dear ___ and ____:

Could we schedule a time for the three of us to meet to talk about my current and upcoming assignments and projects?  To be sure we are all in the loop and also share real-time feedback, a meeting would be best. One of the items that I would like to discuss is the possibility of increasing the flow of assignments to me.  I feel I could help you do bigger and better things, if you send more assignments my way.  Please reply with a few good day/time options and I will coordinate the rest.

Looking forward to our discussion,

Pilar:

When you meet, I would avoid trying to repair their relationship or even acknowledging your perception of their relationship.  Focus on the result, which is the decline in assignments and your desire to be more active.  If the two of them start going back and forth, don't get involved. If it gets really contentious, you could say, "I don't think I am beneficial to this part of the discussion.  Maybe I should excuse myself and we can talk later about my assignments."  That should bring the topic back around to you.  If this does not work on one or two tries, arrange to meet with HR to get advice on how to proceed.

Wishing you all the best!

Deb