Avoid Negative Comments While Networking

Dear Deb:

When I am networking in a one-on-one setting, how do I handle negative comments about my current boss?  My boss has a reputation as a very domineering and difficult person and has made more than a few enemies in our industry.  It’s a small world, so I always get comments like, “Oh, ____ is your boss?  You have my sympathies.”  I don’t want to say something bad, but it’s really awkward.   Can you offer a suggestion for a response?

Thank you!

Jodi

Dear Jodi:

You can’t control your boss or the brand that your boss seems to have built.  However, you can control your response.  Always take the high road.  Avoid any negative statements about your boss, company, or any co-workers.  When you get those comments, you can reply: “He really has been helpful in my career.”  Surely there are examples of good projects to which you were assigned and work that allowed you to advance your skills. Be careful not to endorse the negative behavior of your boss.  Focus on general things or innocuous ways that your boss has aided you or been a positive influence.

Thanks for writing!

Deb